This post is part 2 if you will, to my last post about doing the single parent gig while the hubby is away. This is the part about what happens when the other half, returns…
And while I was thrilled to have him return home last night, albeit it only for a brief visit, I realized something…something that I forget. EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. he travels.
Sometimes his coming home, is almost as hard as his leaving.
I know. Isn’t it all rainbows and unicorns running through fields filled with spring colored flowers and butterflies flitting through the air? Isn’t it like the airport seen with the wife and kids holding the welcome home sign for the long-awaited return of their husband/Dad, in which he comes running off the tarmac to embrace his wife and kids in his arms?
Sadly…not always. Sometimes the unicorn has had little sleep during his travels, and the butterflies have just had it with flitting, and need a nap.
Sometimes…it’s hard to re-adjust at first, because you have a very set routine in which every moment is accounted for precisely because one mis-step could be a disaster in making sure the day is successful. And the other half doesn’t always understand that routine, how hard it is to keep, and how deep down inside (ok not that deep sometimes) you have a bit of animosity towards him because while he’s off progressing in his career, you are home strapped with the kids and your job that can never truly BE a career because you must support HIS, first.
Why I am I talking in the third person? Oh, that’s right…because that was me thinking outside my head. LOL
Let’s start again…
And now with tears in my eyes after a night of little sleep thinking about all of this, I will slap myself in the face and remember that I promised him I’d do this, I’d support him in good and bad…this is HIS time and he is serving our country. I will stop being a selfish brat, and do my very best to support him. Because he would do the same for me. At the end of the day, he does what he does for US…for our family. #Unitedwestand
So while goodbyes can be tough, and readjusting sometimes tougher, I will count my blessings and be thankful for my awesome family. ❤
Rant…over. Thanks for listening, I think I needed to just get that off my chest.
How do you deal with stressful times? Are you able to rant and then feel better? (I know I do! Thanks!)
Here’s to a new week, and week one of Marathon training starting TOMORROW!
14 thoughts on “The return of the ‘other half’ <3”
I 100% get this! Since my husband works in another Province, he is constantly coming and going. It takes a few days for us to get used to him being home and then he leaves – and then we get used to him not being home. It’s a crappy cycle but I just try to take it one day at a time.
Running helps me with the stressful times…and since I’m not running a lot due to my injury it makes it even harder.
Thanks, Anna!!! I think that my lack of running last week may have triggered this post, LOL!!! I hope you are on the mend, soon! Thanks for commenting!
LikeLiked by 1 person
It’s not selfish to be just a little resentful of all the extra work that you’re having to do while he’s away. It’s just human. And as for the readjustment period – my Dad used to travel a lot and my Mum felt the home-coming was tough every time. Again, you’re perfectly normal.
Thanks, Char!! Glad to hear I am ‘somewhat’ normal, LOL.
I’m with you lady! Military spouse duty is tough stuff. I deal with stress by blogging and reading. I need to exercise more. You’re a normal mom/wife/woman and aren’t alone in stressful feelings and times! Xo
LikeLiked by 1 person
Don’t feel bad! You’ve had it all under control, all week, got a routine going, and then BOOM! He comes home. No matter how happy you are to see him, it’s still a disruption.
My husband has been out of work, and I feel the same way with him at home. What can I say?
Sorry to hear your husband is out of work, Wendy. It’s tough all the way around, isn’t it? ❤
That sounds tough! Don’t feel selfish – I can’t imagine what it’s like to have to switch back and forth between handling everything on your own and then having someone else in your routine. You’re incredible for doing such a good job! As you know from my blog, I think a little blog venting is good sometimes 🙂
❤ Thanks hon!!! I appreciate that!
That is difficult! Letting it out definitely helps. I bet marathon training will help you let out some of that steam, too!
LikeLiked by 1 person
I totally understand!!! I agree sometimes the readjusting is a bit wacky!
Thanks, Christina! Sure is wacky indeed!!