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The lessons learned while cooking for 3…

In the last 17 weeks and 2 days of this deployment I’ve learned a lot.  A lot about myself, my kids, my family, my friends, my coworkers, and people just in general. Some of the things I’ve learned I will hold on to dearly.  Like the fact that despite REALLLLLLY wanting to crawl in to a hole for the next year, I have MADE myself get out and do things.  Fun things with my girls.  Even a few outings with friends have made the time apart from my hubby a little more bearable.  I’ve also chosen to keep my kid’s happiness my number one priority, because they deserve the very best in life.  And in that choice, means a lot less “ME” time which can take it’s toll on me from time to time.

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That choice has also brought some pretty judgy comments.  “You aren’t running anymore?  WHY?  Just have your oldest daughter watch your youngest.” Stop. Right. There. I didn’t have kids to make them take care of themselves or each other 24-7, more importantly it’s not my 16 year old daughter’s job to watch her sister while I am out running.  Sure, she watches her during the days this summer minus Wednesdays when I have her nanny come to give both the girls a break.  But would it really be fair of me to have her watch her sister at night so I can go run after work when she’s been watching her all day?  I sure don’t think so.  I let her go socialize with her friends in the evening, attend her voice lesson on Wednesday and just be a KID. She’s already growing up too fast! There’s also the “If it was important to you, you’d make the time to run.”  Really?  Really…Hmm…Sorry, my kids are still more important.  Take that Judgy McJudgerson. #rantoversheesh #Istillhavemybasementworkouts

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I’ve also learned that being a victim or a martyr just isn’t the life path I choose to take anymore. And that’s huge in a time when I could easily fall in to the “poor me” trap. People will continually bitch and moan about how they’ve been handed a raw deal, or that no one is every there for them in life.  But said people often forget to look in the mirror and ask WHAT they are doing to change their situation, or recognize how LITTLE they do for others. Quit. Blaming. Everyone. Else.   Be real people.  Please.  It really is the only way to be. Pick yourself up, brush off the yuck and MOVE FORWARD.  I promise, you’ll be happier for it. I was in denial for years and thought it was the world against ME. I was one of those people!  When really, it was ME and against ME.  What a life changing moment it was to come to that realization.  Whew! #sogladimoverthatpartofmylife  **This rant is about no one in particular, just a reminder of a road I hope to never travel again.

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To keep up with keeping myself grounded, (and sane, who I am kidding) I have started cooking more, which is something I truly love so that is a good thing!  Here’s Tuesday night’s bacon wrapped turkey roast, with Brussels sprouts and baked sweet potato fries! Since my hubby left we’ve been eating a lot of take out, sandwiches, frozen pizzas and soups.  When my daughter said “Mom, it was so nice when I came home and smelled your amazing cooking” I was reminded of my love for cooking and the joy it brings to others lives. #allthefeels

Lastly, (at least for this post) I’ve learned that dogs truly feel the absence of ‘their people’ and it really hurts them.  My dog Sammy has really aged over these last few months.  He mopes around the house, eats random items, and is starting to have hip issues.  We’ve got hard wood floors on our main floor and he slips and slides terribly. I think this weekend it’s time I invest in some rugs.  My bud just hasn’t been the same since my hubby left, and it’s hard to see him so sad.


What life lessons have you learned lately?  How do you deal with aging pets?  Ever find yourself feeling like you need to explain yourself when it’s your life, and no one should be judging you?!


That’s all for now my friends!



14 thoughts on “The lessons learned while cooking for 3…”

  1. I understand on the “people” thoughts. #sooverit I focus on my kids and I. Easier that way! And good for you on keeping your goals and hanging out with your kids and not having them babysit one another. I was raised that way-not a fan. Hugs to Sammy!

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  2. We put our dog in his kennel for years until he started resisting. We listened to him and he is no longer kennel kept when we aren’t home. If you cook for six you can cook once and eat twice.

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  3. Sorry to hear that you haven’t been running this summer, but if your daughter babysits your other children while you are at work, I totally understand. That meal you made looks delicious! Keep doing what you enjoy, that will help while your husband is away. I hope your dog gets in better spirits. He looks so sad in that photo.

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  4. I’m so sorry you’ve gotten such judgy comments. I mean seriously?? Ugh. Here’s the thing though. You don’t need to explain or defend your choices to anyone. You owe them nothing. You’re doing what’s right for you, end of story. Yay for cooking again and doing what YOU love! That’s what life is all about. Hugs to Sammy. I’m so there on the aging dog front, still smarting and breathing into the void from losing Remy last week. Hugs.


    1. Thanks so much, Marcia. I had kept these feelings bottled up for a while now, so it felt good to get it off my chest. I’ve thought about you and Remy a lot this week, and my heart is so heavy for you and your family. Thanks for all of your love and support! Hugs to you as well!!!! xo


  5. Ugh, I can’t believe people have made judgy comments 😦 I’m glad you’ve been able to live your life with your priorities and your choices instead of giving in to people who should have known better than to say something in the first place. And your food looks amazing, as always 🙂


  6. Don’t worry about what anyone else says…your kids are a priority! I find that when my hubby isn’t home I don’t cook too much either – – it won’t last forever – so again, no worries! You’re a great Mom Michelle! 🙂


  7. Aging pets….well, that was us last month. Our dog Maclean was 14 and sick but we didn’t know how sick and were in the process of getting tests done. Dog (animals) are amazing and the love with their hearts too. Hope Sammy turns around – maybe give him a shirt of your husdbands for smell, that might help. You are doing an amazing job with your daugthers!

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  8. K, wait a second, are you serious? People have actually QUESTIONED why you’re not running?? I can barely believe it?! Why on earth would anyone do that?? That’s horrible!

    But what’s not horrible is that bacon wrapped hunk of turkey!!! *mouth watering*


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